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  • I’m not sure what youre basing this allegory on. There’s nobody saying that trans folks (or anyone else) shouldn’t be able to pick whatever name they like. I’m not even saying that people SHOULD like any name and it frankly isn’t that important. It’s not like don’t wear pants or don’t grow long hair. What I AM saying is that if you choose a name that is offbeat and people don’t love it, like (whoopi, sure) that has nothing to do with being trans and having chosen a name that suits your gender identity, but rather with people having preferences about names that you can’t control.

    The unspoken premise of the original post, which I disagree with, is that people don’t like some set of names because trans people pick them. Instead, surprised Pikachu, there are names people don’t really like. It’s not trans stigma, it’s filling your candy dish with black jelly beans and candy corn then saying, “people just don’t like my candy because I’m pupscent and they are all backward cynophobes”. If you like those candies then of course eat them, but let’s not call it stigma if other people don’t share your tastes.





  • I think having a cute stage name is something people accept after you’re famous.

    I’m gonna come in with maybe an unpopular hot take. I have no problems people being trans or choosing a name that suits your preferred gender, but–perhaps because of the repression earlier in life–it seems there is often an… aggressively creative search for names?

    I know about 8 MtF people (0 FtM for some reason?), and they are not picking mainstream names like Mary, Samantha, or Norah for example. Eris, Athena, Cybelle, Malice, and Laika are 5 of the 8 names chosen. It’s not a problem, you pick it and I will use it, but it IS jarring. I’m not making excuses for transphobia because that’s stupid, but it is strange to me to ostensibly want to blend in with everybody else, but then choose a name that obviously marks you out? It’s like the line between choosing a name for your heroine DND character and for yourself is suddenly completely erased and it’s absolutely your right, but as an outsider it’s honestly kinda weird.

    I support a parents right to pick names for their kids, but aeslyn and breeleigh and brandaeden are weird names. Same for people who pick their own names regardless of gender identity. If you pick a name that is kinda weird… well it’s kinda weird.


  • Nah. Some forms of practice like shooting or bowling or anything where the goal is to do something 10 or 100 times and get a high score are absolutely about doing exactly the same thing over and over again as predictably as possible and the variance of result is the problem.

    If you don’t like that example, how about chess puzzles?

    Certainly between practice sessions you might wisely expose yourself to new ideas, but the idea is the same:

    See a position, see the winning strategy / tactic / idea. If you’re a student of the woodpecker method, once you do that once, you do it again, exactly the same way, and hope to be faster at it.

    These are forms of practice wherein you do the same thing, exactly the same way, and hope to get increasingly better results by honing a skill through repetition without changing anything. its not that you CANT change things sometimes or that you shouldn’t, but generally speaking the idea is consistency.