It’s not just about how you’re treated by these communities, it’s how they work mechanically.

For example, on reddit if you engage with these people, you will not only be deleted and banned from their sub, you will also be auto-banned by a bunch of opposing subs. You get one chance to participate before you need to circumvent the platform by creating a new account.

It’s simply not feasible to engage with them online in this way, and that’s ignoring the time and emotional energy you need to spend to do it in the first place.

The issue needs to addressed at a societal level. As a society we value all the wrong things in men and few of the right things. A lot of these guys end up in these communities specifically because they feel they can’t meet the ludicrous standards created for them, and place the blame solely on women instead of our wider culture.

I’ve called these assholes out on reddit to in the past. My reward was not only getting banned from their sub, but also getting auto-banned from a bunch of unrelated mainstream and progressive subs.

The idea that we can just go in and win an argument with these clowns is incredibly naive. I get the sense that the author didn’t actually try to do this herself. Social media is specifically built to push people into impenetrable bubbles because the algorithms intentionally favor combative tribalism, which drives up engagement.

But social media is only part of the problem. We have bigger issues related to how we think about men, and how we raise boys, that drive them into this mentality in the first place. Toxic masculinity is not new, it’s just been spread rapidly by technology.

I played hockey in high school and that was my experience too. Insanely toxic attitudes towards women. Yet we elevate these assholes because at least in the US we still value athletics in men more than anything else.

We should weaponize bots to do this. With AI it doesn’t even need to be real people anymore.

They’re using them against us and it’s long past time we responded in kind.

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The conservatives are at 46%.

Says the terrorist who supports murdering innocent people. You violent Israel lovers are no different from Hamas.

I actually agree with you. There used to be real consequences for bad behavior and being lazy, and now you get told that it’s not really your fault. Zero concept of personal responsibility. Now society is an epidemic of mass narcissism and selfishness. It clearly isn’t sustainable. There are going to be severe consequences for our quality of life in the future, and that’s assuming society even survives this epidemic at all.

More like modern kids aren’t equipped to deal with reality.

It’s mass narcissism and it’s going to destroy our society.

If I don’t see signs of change soon, I’m getting tf out of here.

The junior devs are my job are way better at debugging than AI, lol. Granted they are top talent hires because no one else can break in these days.

What’s the alternative to representative democracy? I’m asking genuinely.

Unfortunately I’ve come to similar conclusions. It’s incredible how you can point out extremely obvious fascist behaviors in politicians yet “ordinary” people respond by asking something like “then where are the convention camps”?

They will literally fucking wait around until people are being mass murdered before they call an extremist an extremist. Centrists were complicit with the Nazis and they will be again.

Wow, I’m so shocked that an administration of thieves and grifters are helping other thieves and grifters.

Yeah because of none of his employees respect him at all.

Hahaha ok dipshit

Ah yes, putting a Nazi in charge of the most powerful military in the world while starting a global trade war is somehow good for the world.

Ok guy.

The dipshit swing voters don’t pay attention to anything but their wallet, and all they knew was that prices were lower in 2019 than in 2024. That’s as far as their ability to think about the president goes. 90% of swing voters don’t give a shit about anything else.

It was infuriating listening to NPR interview undecided voters and their response would be “wHaT’s KaMaLa GoNnA dO fOr Us?” Stupid greedy motherfuckers will get what’s coming to them.

Bet commenting this would get you a ban on reddit these days.

I asked the same question in our meeting about it. They apparently have metrics tracking as part of their contract for copilot. But they also want to see demos etc. Basically forcing us to do busy work and increase stress so the execs can justify blowing money and political capital on AI.